24. DUTY TOWARDS WIFE

God says

…. wives are as a garment for you, and you are as a garment for them. Q.2: 187

…marry of the (Muslim) women, who seem good to you … Q.4: 3
A spiritual relationship between man and woman is postulated as the indispensable basis of sexual relations. ( See Qur’an 2:223.)

….Live with them on a footing of kindness and equity; if you take dislike to them it may well be that you dislike a thing and God brings about through it a great deal of good Q.4: 19

(Addressed to men and women): Do not marry women who ascribe divinity to aught beside God before they attain to [true] belief : for any believing bondwoman [of God] is certainly better than a woman who ascribe divinity to aught beside God, even though she pleases you greatly. And do not give your women in marriage to men who ascribe divinity to aught beside God before they attain to [true] belief : for any believing bondman [of God] is certainly better than a man who ascribes divinity to aught beside God, even though he please you greatly. [Such as ] these invite unto the fire, whereas God invite unto paradise, and [unto the achievement of] forgiveness by his leave; and He makes clear His messages unto mankind, so that they might bear them in mind. Q.2: 221


Prophet said

1. “Fear God with regard to women. Indeed, you have married them with the trust of God.” – H: Bukhari and Muslim. N: Jabir-b-Abdullah.

2. “…best of you are those who are best with their wives.” – H: Tirmizi. N: Abu Hurairah

3. “Man is a king over the members of his household and (on the Judgement Day) he will be asked (how he cared) for his ‘subjects’.” – H: Bukhari and Muslim. N: Abdullah b Omer.

4. “He (or she) is not of us who poisons the mind of a woman against her husband”– H: Abu Daud. N: Abu Hurairah.

Those who claim to have not enough time for their family must remember that the Prophet’s task was enormous and schedule much heavier. Yet he found time to humor his wives and to entertain them. Read next Fridaypost. The topic 24 will continue, insha Allah.